Dance in the Rain


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Last night, barefoot and in our pajamas my three girls and I ran outside in the middle of a major downpour and danced. We danced in the rain, smiled and laughed. It felt like one of those moments you watch on a movie that look so fun and you tell yourself you’ll do that soon and then time passes, life happens and then there is “never a good time.”

It took less than a minute but will stick with each of us for a lifetime. Maybe it was me who felt transformed in that moment, after all that’s what kids do. They play in the rain, jump in puddles, run outside in the hail just to see what it will feel like. They color and dance outside the lines.

Children live as fully as they can in each moment.

I, on the other hand, as a self-respecting adult must set the good example and do what’s right-right?

We came in before the thunder and lightning started (I give them guidelines and boundaries for safety) but they gave me a reminder to embrace life like an inspired, curious, precious child.

What will your dance in life be like today?


Don’t Be Afraid of the Dark


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Are you afraid of the Dark?

Every day the sun rises and then sets on your part of the world creating a cloak of darkness. On a clear night you may find an amazing blanket of stars, pinpoints of light in the vast recesses of the universe. We must have the dark moments of night to have the glorious beauty of sunrise and new opportunity of the morning. It is part of a Divine Design.

You may not be aware, but you have parts of yourself, like the universe that are dark. Parts of you that you’d rather hide from yourself or from others. These parts of yourself are qualities of being that you have at one point in your life deemed as wrong or bad. You have had experiences in your life that you gave meaning to and created beliefs that informed your choices every day since. This is your shadow. It follows you throughout your life, often at an unconscious level creating the patterns in your life that keep you stuck. You work hard at disguising it and protecting yourself.

Do you feel like bad stuff always happens to you? Like you always pick the same type of wrong person to date? That you never get picked for promotions? That no one values your opinion or cares? That you aren’t worthy of love, success, happiness? That you keep trying to make change in your life but you just can’t no matter how many times you try?

You may cover your shadow with a social mask pretending to be happy and humorous to hide your sadness, or you act as expert on every topic under the sun but are hiding feelings of stupidity or insecurity. You tell yourself lies to protect yourself but are really hiding a brilliant, magnificent spirit. When you are willing to really look at this mask, it becomes a valuable tool in transforming your life. As Debbie Ford mentions in The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, “the reason for doing shadow work is to become whole. To end our suffering. To stop hiding ourselves from ourselves.”

Transforming your shadow involves compassionate courage. You must intentionally revisit your past experiences and emotions associated with those incidents. It takes looking at all the parts you don’t like about yourself and being willing to seek and embrace the gifts they held for you. By integrating all of these parts of yourself you once disowned, you remember who you really are. Your perfection does not lie “out there” somewhere, after you lose 20 lbs. or gain another certification. It is a part of who you already are. You will bring those pinpoints of light into the dark until you recognize the perfection and brilliance of your Divine Design.  You will never be the same.

If you really want to transform your life and wake up from autopilot, start noticing and writing down your habitual patterns, thoughts or experiences that you wish were different. It seems so simple but it is important to write them down. Acknowledging them is the first step in transforming how you experience life. The second is finding the support in a form that you can be fully committed to. Coaching, a book group (I will be holding one based on Debbie Ford’s Dark Side of the Light Chasers) or try a weekend intensive like the Shadow Process as a gift to yourself and never be afraid of the dark again.  

Do You Feel Alive?


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How you live each day is a gift you give yourself.

The thoughts you think, the forgiveness you give, the food you eat or the smile you share.

Are you allowing the “busy-ness” of life to keep you in autopilot and away from the present? Are you numb?

Even in a moment of struggle or sadness there is a gift of wisdom to be found. That gift is a tool that when recognized, becomes a stepping stone toward the fulfilling life you desire. You will still have responsibilities. Every hero does. It’s how you choose to frame those responsibilities that makes all the difference.

Life is a Divine gift. Have you forgotten? It does not happen TO you it happens FOR you!

Give yourself the gift of being inspired today. Then do something that makes you feel fulfilled and alive.

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What’s Your Vision?


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IMG_1984Vision. Do you have one? Have you written it down? Do you use it as a guide from which you make all of your choices? If not, you are missing out on your life. You may find yourself stuck in never-ending cycles of repetitive, automatic life, feeling stagnant. Wondering why you are living the same life you were living three years ago when you said, “this year, things will be different.” If that is you, it’s time to write out your vision.

Your vision is simply how you would like your life to be. What you desire to have, to feel, to experience and why. It reflects what you believe to be most important. It can change overtime but pinpoints your priorities and contains hope for your future. When you write your vision down, you can use it to check in on yourself, bust yourself or clarify which choice you should make. Ask yourself what you want to feel or experience in all areas of your life: relationships (family, friends, and intimate), spirituality, health, career and charity, etc. This knowledge becomes the stepping-stones toward goals and are the guideposts of your choices that help you reach that vision.

There’s a saying, “Where the mind goes, the man follows.”

Where do you want to go? Daydreaming isn’t just for kids. It keeps your soul alive, passionate and motivated. It can be a tool to take you where you’ve always wanted to be. Take time to write out what you most desire in life and why. Read it everyday. Use your vision to breathe life into your life!

Using your vision to support your future choices will open your eyes to the autopilot life you’ve been living and help you fully wake up to this one precious life you have.

When Tragedy Strikes


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winterinspirationRecently my extended family was touched with a diagnosis no one wants to hear.

So many times we want to be the ultimate “fixer.” We want to swoop in and solve the problem. But in those, painful, private moments, when asked what to do, my response was to remind this person to just be there and listen. Listen to the pain, the fear and the anger.

That is the simple reminder I wish to leave you with today.

Listen with patience and love.

It can heal more than kale and wheat grass, any day.



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