Why do I have to do this?
I can’t wait for this to change!
I just wish I was free from all of this crap!
Have you ever thought or said out loud any of these unsavory phrases?
I have gone down that rabbit hole.
Smiling on the outside and yet yearning and wishing for things to
How far do you let yourself go down that rabbit hole?
It can be pretty enticing and you may even find support for your adventure with others who enjoy going down their own rabbit holes.
Dark talk. Negative feelings. Heavy energy.
It’s true that sometimes we must swirl around in the muck before we are transformed; before we reach a higher level of awareness or self-love that becomes a game changer. How long you allow yourself to swirl is your responsibility.
All of the choices you have made, from the moment you got up this morning to the moment that has you sitting in front of your computer reading this blog define what your tomorrow may look like. What you choose to do today or not do today becomes what you have or do not have tomorrow.
Sounds obvious and even a bit simplistic, but it is truth. You are creating the framework for your tomorrows right now.
If you want freedom from whatever it is that you feel is keeping you trapped, you must do something different that what you have been doing. Blaming others will keep you stuck.
1. Start looking at all the ways that you are already free. I could give you a list but you will feel much more empowered by taking ten minutes and writing them down for yourself. Recognize what you choose everyday, every moment. Once you start, you will soon realize how much freedom you have.
2. Acknowledge your response to those situations you wish you could change. Are there areas of your life experience that you want to change? Write them down and acknowledge them. Notice how you respond during those situations you wish were different. Don’t simply wish for change. Become aware and choose change. If it hasn’t changed on its own by now it will take intentional action on your part and it is possible. Keep striving.
3. Remember that you are free to choose a different response. You are not your past. You are not your dysfunctional family. You are who you choose to be in every waking minute and that can be vastly different from genetics or habits from the past. Start with one habitual response and focus on that until you have that positive change become a part of who you are. Then, move forward with the next one. Ask for help if you need it. Rome wasn’t built in a day, cut yourself some slack, breathe and intentionally build smart.
4. Give Thanks. Every day in every moment. Acknowledge all that you have and all that you are. If you are breathing, have a roof over your head, a warm shower and a computer to read this on, you have much more than most people in the world. Give thanks. You are, I believe, a child of God. You are spirit having a human experience. You are more than this physical body. You are spirit with infinite, sacred worth. Allow this to remove the fears you may life your life by. Offer a prayer of gratitude for those who help you in your daily life. Say a prayer of thanks for the bus driver that took you to work today, the store checker that has to work on Thanksgiving and the service members that are away from their families so you can be with yours. Give thanks that you have freedom of choice everyday.
You are already free. Say no to living on autopilot. Own your freedom.